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Singaporean Women Strike back! This is the sequel from ‘Brides For Sale’. I wrote based on an article in a local paper, The Star, dated on 5th December 2004, by a Malaysian columnist, Seah Chiang Nee. This was the situation in Singapore, the pioneer of the matchmaking business, ‘Bride For Sale’ that later ascended to Malaysia. And many of my writings here are the direct copies of Seah’s writings in the article. The sad existent of 300,000 white-collar male workers in Singapore couldn’t find wives. Why? Because the men had ‘no money, no looks, no education’. (PA thinks - These sounded more like embellishments of Seah, of men who were less wealthy, not good looking and with lower education). Over the years, female undergraduates outnumbered males and outperformed them in many professions of many fields. The comparison? Women who held Degrees averaged earning S$ 2,500 to S$ 6,000 per month, while the men, S$ 1,200 to S$ 2,500. The impact of this clashing had become obvious. Men in their 40s still lived with their parents or siblings, and in certain related interviews, some of men said that they had not gone for a date for more than 10 years! (PA says - Whoa, a severe blow to the Chinese custom of marriage and having a family!) So, what then? The matchmaking business of ‘buying brides’ in poorer countries in this region had started (hell knew who was the person who founded this idea and then became rich, of course). The men who were came from a variety of financial standings and careers. It wasn’t due to the Singaporean men’s low academic or career achievements, or of the poorer men who couldn’t match the wealthier Singaporean women. The most common reason, a complaint against Singaporean women was that their demands for the 5 Cs ‒ condo, car, credit card, country club and cash. Besides that, these women were perceived as less domesticated ‒ didn’t know cooking, doing household chores, arrogant with high education achievement and materialistic. A Singaporean man had complaint that these women thought ‘Singaporean men were good for nothing while they themselves were perfect’. According to Seah, for each Singaporean man looking for a Vietnamese bride, there were 2,000 single Singaporean women. The demand for ‘buying’ Vietnamese wives was so great that it had created an active matchmaking business in Ho Chi Minh city. The price for a package in Singapore? It used to be S$15, 000, but now it went down as low as S$6,000 to S$7,000. And what the Singaporean women thought about this kind of matchmaking? They were hitting back. One woman had angrily denounced men who imported brides as ‘spineless and whiners’. She said, ‘They (the Singaporean men) believe in self-contradictory ideals when it comes to women and have no intention of working hard for their family. Singaporean women wish to see some backbone in you all. We do not care about what you earn or whatever. Just show us that you truly are a man and not some whining ‘screw driver’. This is very, very disheartening’. (PA thinks ‒ ‘We don’t care about what you earn’? What a STUPID excuse!). On complaints of arrogant or being spoilt and demanding, the women shot back, ‘Look at the mirror first, please!’ And not long ago, a woman wrote a letter to the press asking for the government to intervene to make it harder for foreign women to marry Singaporean men. (PA thinks - How d*mn inconsiderate and cruel these Singaporean women were! They demanded for 5Cs, and when the men couldn’t provide them, they were accused of being spineless and whiners! And making it harder for Singapore men to marry foreign wives? How selfish, rude and ludicrous! Oh yes, ludicrously highly-educated b(censored)!). Another b(censor). She wrote an articulate letter to the press recently, in which she said the Singapore girl is a CHALLENGE to love. She added, ‘Although she may, at the end of the day, be a supportive and faithful spouse, the barbs hiding under her soft interior are daunting to the suitor. She’s materialistic and loves being so. Shopping is a major hobby, and looking goo is absolutely essential. The man is but another accessory, a helper, chauffeur, bag carrier’. This shallow Singaporean woman claimed that she had been to Vietnam. She continued, ‘The girls, true to form, are slim, tall and soft-spoken. Every word is punctuated with a smile. Their voices are melodious, and they work hard without complaining, carrying loads of cloth and vegetables in the marker stalls and eateries. Simple, gentle and hard working. It’s hard not to fall in love with them’. So now, by comparison, the Singaporean women said they had adopted Western role model of strong women, ‘without taking into account the men alongside with us’. (PA considers that snobbish, unwashed bottom woman was D*MN wrong! Western women were not as choosy, arrogant, materialistic! What a lousy excuse!). And as a general comment, the militant feminists-like Singaporean women are akin to chant, ‘We are not going to be one of those docile wives who nod their heads and cook for you at the slightest command. We are not going to have wool pulled over our eyes by your romantic nonsense. No way! We are women of New Age.’ But somehow a woman concluded, ‘The whole idea of women’s liberation in Singapore seems to have come at the expense of our loves lives’. (PA thinks ‒ Serve these b(censor)s right! Remain unmarried and lonely then. Even Western men do not relish this type of women, the women who are infamous for demanding for 5Cs). Picture ‒ The shack that Ms. Chao (of my previous blog) lived. PA 
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3/15/2007 12:18 pm |
I was in Singapore in 05 and came across many unmarried men and women in their 40s. The women, who typically watch 2 Hollywood movies a week and English soccer in the weekend, are looking for Mr. Perfectly Blue Eyes (or someone resembling Brat Pitt or David Beckham). The men are looking for "v_i_r_g_i_n" brides (with emphasis in parenthesis, bold and underscore). They think any Singaporean women who have reached the age of 30 have already lost their v_i_r_gin-dignity. These perfectionist losers are full of h_o_g_wash.
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3/15/2007 2:40 pm |
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3/22/2007 4:48 am |
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3/26/2007 5:34 am |
G  missed you!
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Dear PA, interesting story, but I wouldn't blame just Singaporean women for that... it is a worldwide fashion... I will share the story of a person (In Europe) close to me (but I also know of other similar ones). He used to be a goat herdsman. He used to say that he would never find in that country a girl to become his wife, because of his job... which requires hard physical work, long hours, living in the countryside, no weekends or holiday... (poeple do it for their great passion and love for nature) He eventually decided to ask to a matchmaking company to find a wife for him. He exchanged mail with a few African girls, then after a while, he visited one... she then came over to Europe, they got married... She was supposed to be helping him out with his business, what happened though was that she just sat on the couch days long watching TV... and in the end HE gave up his business... Girls everywhere ask for the 5C... and even if they don't at first, once they get used to life in a richer country... they fall in the trap... I wonder how many of the Vietnamese girls bought by Singaporean men turn out becoming like Singaporean girls... I hate to generalize, but I have a question now, which I'll consider for later publication on the advice line: Are women more materialistic than men? MB PS: In regard to advice line comments, no worries I didn't take that harshly, I am (starting to be) aware of what life demands off people... I'll do my best to keep asking interesting questions for you to be amused  ...since you can't get anything off my wallet   the flying squirrel strikes back     
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