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blissful relationship Some might think that it is the goal of every blissful relationship tobe so open with one another that every thought, memory and past experience is shared. While in many cases that might be a terrific goal, for some it could cause irreparable damages.The mind is an amazing thing. It can remember sights, smells andvisions from decades ago. It can be a powerful tool in recollecting wonderful childhood memories, thoughts of an early courtship and other pleasant occasions. The mind can also be a jail for tormenting thoughts and flashbacks. Think back on survivors of war who after the carnage was over, took their own lives because their minds could not forget and the traumatic images would never go away.I'm often asked how much of one's past life should be shared with someone you want to marry. While each situation is a little different, when it comes to previous intimate encounters, it is usually best to discuss them in general terms. Yes, you should behonest if you had se.xual relationships before you married, but for the sake of the mind that does not forget, it is best to leave out the details. You will have to live with the memories of your past indiscretions but you should not make your mate live with them too. While you might be curious to know the names, places and situations ofyour love's prior intimate encounters, in the long run your relationship will be better off keeping that information in the past.I've known many people who have said that once they knew the specific details of their mate's sexual experiences, it took months or years before those thoughts and images no longer dominated his or her mind.In blissful relationships we don't ask our mate to share memories heor she is trying to forget and neither do we tell our mates those things that will sear unwelcome images into their mind. In some case sit is best to discuss those things, but a trained counselor would be of more help. While God does forgive and forget the all the wrong things we have done when we ask Him to, we humans have to live withour memories the rest of our lives. |
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爱的真谛 爱是恒久忍耐，又有恩慈； 爱是不嫉妒；爱是不自夸，不张狂，不作害羞的事，不求自己的益处，不轻易发怒，不计算人的恶，不喜欢不义，只喜欢真理；凡事包容，凡事相信，凡事盼望，凡事忍耐。爱是永不止息。（圣经林前13：4-8） Love is patient, love is kind {and} is not jealous; love does not brag {and} is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong {suffered, } does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails; （Bible 1Co13:4- 圣经金句与您共勉！ 愿神祝福你！ 耶稣爱你，愿主祝福你！
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