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选择适合过一辈子的人 Kies die persoon deur die lewe 心理学家认为，判断男女两个人是否适合“牵手”，应考虑以下10个因素： 1、彼此都是对方的好朋友，不带任何条件，喜欢与对方在一起。 2、彼此很容易沟通、互相可以很敞开地坦白任何事情，而不必担心被对方怀疑或轻视。 3、两人在心灵上有共同的理念和价值观，并且对这些观念有清楚的认识与追求。 4、双方都认为婚姻是一辈子的事，而且双方(特别强调“双方”)都坚定地愿意委身在这个长期的婚姻关系中。 5、当发生冲突或争执的时候可以一起来解决，而不是等以后来发作。 6、相处可以彼此逗趣，常有欢笑，在生活中许多方面都会以幽默相待。 7、彼此非常了解，并且接纳对方，当知道对方了解了自己的优点和缺点后，仍然确信被他所接纳。 8、从最了解你、也是你最信任的对方处得到支持的肯定。 9、有时会有浪漫的感情，但绝大多数的时候，你们的相处是非常满足而且是自由自在的。 10、有一个非常理性和成熟的交往，并且双方都能感受到，在许多不同的层面上你们是很相配的。 爱情是追到手的吗？ 不是。真正的感情根本不需要追的。两个人的默契，在慢慢将两颗心的距离缩短，在无意识中渐渐靠近彼此。从好朋友到情人，真正的感情是用不了多久的。从你喜欢上他的那一刻起，也许他也在那一刻喜欢上了你。同节奏的爱情往往能奏出最和谐最动听的乐章。 真正的爱情需要什么？需要两个人在一起是轻松快乐的，没有压力。 爱一个人就是毫无保留地付出吗？ 不是。每一个人都是一个独立的人，我们首先是属于自己的，我们有思想，我们有个性，而不是把我们的全部都给对方。我们可以有保留，比如你不愿意说的隐私，有秘密的人才是成熟的，不是吗？有时候不说出来反而更好。 外貌和个性哪个更重要？ 男人年轻的时候往往喜欢漂亮的女子，25岁以后，会选择和自己性格合适的女子，能和自己一起过日子的人。 喜欢一个人，太急切了，反而不好。一是因为越想得到的越得不到；二是得到了也很难珍惜，来得快去得也快。细水长流一些，爱情会更长久。 相爱容易相处难。相处中最重要的是宽容和妥协，在信任和了解的基础上。没有宽容和妥协，任何两个人都无法相处。 纯纯的爱也许只有一次，但是真爱未必只有一次。时间会抚平一切伤痕。 我们其实是可以爱上很多人的。我们不是喜欢某个人，而是喜欢某种类型的人。先来的人和我们相遇了，于是我们幸福地走到了一起；对于后到的人，只能抱以歉意，同时，祝福他早日找到属于他自己的幸福。 没有谁是我们一生非拥有不可的，爱一个人，很多时候实际上是习惯了这个人 现实和浪漫哪个更重要？ 现实。没有现实为基础，浪漫就是空中楼阁。大学校园的爱情往往随着毕业而告终，大多是因为不现实，不在一个城市。 只有相互欣赏相互佩服各有所长的人，才会碰撞出最美丽的火花。 分手后我们还可以做朋友吗？ 最好不要。剪不断，理还乱。过去了就过去了，我们不是生活在过去，而是现在。爱情不等于生活，只是生活的一部分。 想知道一个人爱不爱你，就看他和你在一起有没有活力，开不开心，有就是爱，没有就是不爱。爱情不是感动，你不是他心目中的理想伴侣，即使一时接受你，将来碰上他心仪的那一位，一样会离开你。有些人情绪容易大起大落，这样的人是很难维持一段长久的关系的。 是否门当户对不要紧，最重要应该是兴当趣对，不然没有共同语言，即使在一起，仍然会感觉到孤独。 持久的爱情源于彼此发自内心的真爱，建立在平等的基础之上。任何只顾疯狂爱人而不顾自己有否被爱，或是只顾享受被爱而不知真心爱人的人都不会有好的结局。 如果爱上，就不要轻易放过机会。莽撞，可能使你后悔一阵子；怯懦，却可能使你一辈子后悔。没有经历过爱情的人生是不完整的，没有经历过痛苦的爱情是不深刻的。爱情使人生丰富，痛苦使爱情升华。 你可能习惯与现在的恋人，明明不太喜欢，但在一起久了，习惯使人不太愿做新的选择。人生会面临无数次选择。当给你机会选择时，你一定要谨慎；一旦你做出了选择，就永远不要后悔；拿得起，放得下，该断则断，该忘记的，就把它忘记；该珍惜的，就要把它珍惜。 我们总说：“我要找一个很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。”但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，你却无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。 没错，我们总是以为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。可是后来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之后才会发现的。或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，但是你有没有想过，在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没有发觉而已呢？ 所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧，他或许已经等你很久了。当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。所有的期待和希望都只有七八分，剩下两三分用来爱自己。如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来，完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。 所以请记住，喝酒不要超过六分醉，吃饭不要超过七分饱，爱一个人不要超过八分。 如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：爱一个人，要了解也要开解；要道歉也要道谢；要认错也要改错；要体贴也要体谅；是接受而不是忍受；是宽容而不是纵容；是支持而不是支配；是慰问而不是质问；是倾诉而不是控诉；是难忘而不是遗忘；是彼此交流而不是凡事交代；是为对方默默祈求而不是向对方诸多要求。可以浪漫，但不要浪费，不要随便牵手，更不要随便放手。 浪漫的人这样描述与爱人的相逢：千万人当中，在时间的无涯的荒野里，没有早一步，也没有晚一步，刚巧赶上了。两个人好着的时候，你不妨就这样想吧。如果不好了，你要明白是否和某人在一起，不过是一个再简单不过的概率问题。数千个擦肩而过中，你给谁机会谁就和你有缘分，纵没有甲，也会有乙。别傻等那种想像中的海誓山盟般的缘分了，生活中哪有那么多传奇。别醒着做梦了，难道你忘了艺术虽然来源生活，却还高于生活吗? Psychologists believe that men and women to judge whether two people fit "hand", should consider the following 10 factors: 1, are each other's friends, without any conditions, in love with each other with. 2, each is easy to communicate frankly with each other can be very open to anything, without fear of being suspected or despise each other. 3, the two have in mind the common ideas and values, and on a clear understanding of these concepts and pursue. 4, both sides believe that marriage is a lifelong process, and the two sides (in particular emphasized that "both sides") are willing to commit themselves firmly in the long-term marriage. 5, when the time of conflict or dispute can be resolved together, rather than wait for later episodes. 6, can get along with each other funny, laugh often, in many ways, life will treat each other with humor. 7, very familiar with each other and accept each other, know each other know when their own advantages and disadvantages, we remain convinced by him to accept. 8, from the most about you is your most trusted each other's office supported the affirmative. 9, sometimes romantic feelings, but most of the time, your relationship is very satisfied and are free of. 10, there is a very rational and mature exchanges, and both sides felt, in many different levels, you are well matched. Love is Zhuidao Shou it? No. True feelings do not need to chase. Two people's understanding, the shorter the distance between two hearts slowly, slowly around each other in the unconscious. From friends to lovers, the real feelings not be long before the. You like him from the moment, perhaps he was also the moment to like you. With the rhythm of love can often play the most harmonious music of the most pleasant. True love What? Need two people together is easier and more enjoyable, no pressure. Unreservedly love a person is to pay it? No. Each individual is an independent, we first own, we have ideas, we have character, and not all of us gave each other. We have reservations, such as you do not want that privacy, there is a secret talent is mature, is not it? Sometimes it is better not say it. Which is more important looks and personality? When young men are like a beautiful woman, 25 years old, and his character will choose the right woman to live together and their own people. Like a person, too hasty, but good. One more not because of the more desired; second is difficult to get the treasure, come and go. Steady and some, love is more lasting. Hard to love easy to get along. The most important thing is to get along tolerance and compromise, in the basis of trust and understanding. No tolerance and compromise, any two people can not get along. Perhaps the only time an innocent love, but love not only once. Time will heal all wounds. In fact, we can fall in love with many people. We do not like someone, but like a certain type of person. First to the people we met, and so we came together happily; for the latter to the people, can only cling to apologize at the same time, wish him a speedy find his own happiness. No one is that we have no non-life, and love a person, often the person is actually used to the reality and romance which is more important? Reality. Not based on reality, is a romantic castle in the air. Campus love often end with graduation, mostly because of unrealistic, not a city. Only the strong points of mutual appreciation of admire each other who will be the most beautiful spark of the collision. We can still be friends after breaking up it? Best not to. Helpless and chaotic. Passed over them, we do not live in the past, but now. Love does not equal life, just part of life. Want to know a person love your, to see him with you have no vitality, it does not happy, there is love, no that is not love. Love is not moved, you are not the ideal partner in his mind, even if temporarily accept you, it will run into his favorite one, they would leave you. Easy to some emotional ups and downs, this person is very difficult to maintain a long-term relationship. It does not matter whether the perfect match, the most important hing when interest should be right, otherwise there is no common language, even together, still feel lonely. Long-lasting love from the heart of true love from each other, built on the basis of equality. No love only madness has loved regardless of their own, or enjoy the benefit of being loved and I do not know true love of people do not have a good ending. If you fall in love, do not easily let go the opportunity. Rash, may make you regret it for a while; cowardice, it may make you a lifetime regret. Did not experience the love of life is not complete, did not experience the pain of love is not deep. Love makes life rich and sublimate the pain to love. You may be accustomed with the present lover, obviously do not like, but with a long time, used to make people less willing to make new choices. Will face numerous choices in life. When given the opportunity to choose you, you must be careful; Once you have made a choice, would never regret it; get affordable, let go, the break is broken, the forgotten, put it forget; the treasure, to make it treasure. We always said: "I love to find a love who will love." But when the other person ask you, what makes love love, you are unable to answer him, because you do not know. Yes, we always thought we would find a people who themselves love love. But later, when we suddenly look back, we will find how innocent they once. If never start, how do you know will love love that individual? In fact, love the feeling of love is to experience a lot of things together until after the discovery. Perhaps everyone wants to be able to find their partner in mind 100 percent, but you have not thought about that in your side will already paid for you was silent a long time, but you do not find more? So, still a closer look at the people around it, he might have been waiting for you for a long time. When you love someone, love to just eight absolute good. All the expectations and hopes are only Qiba Fen, and the remaining two or three minutes to love myself. If you continue to love more, give the other party is likely to pressure for each breath, completely lost the love of fun. So remember, drink no more than six drunk, eat no more than seven full, love a person no more than eight. If you are confused for love, perhaps the following passage can give you some inspiration: love a person, to understand the need to open solution; to apologize also thanks; should admit its mistakes have error correction; should also appreciate the thoughtfulness; is acceptable rather than endure; is tolerant and not condoned; is to support, not dominate; is sympathy, not asked; is talk, not complaints; is memorable and not forgotten; is not sharing everything with each other accountable; is quietly praying for each other rather than many other requirements. Can be romantic, but do not waste, it should not hold hands, not to let go lightly. People, describes the romantic and love to get together again: 10 million persons, at the time is long in the wilderness, neither earlier nor later step, you happen to meet. Well with two people, you may wish to be it. If not good, you have to understand whether someone with, but the probability of a simple question again. Pass in the thousands, to whom the opportunity will come to you and you have a fate, not a vertical, there will be B. Do not be silly to imagine such kind of like the fate of eachother, and life, how can there be so many legends. Do not awake dreaming, have you forgotten the art although the source of life, are still higher than life? 
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